The greatest self care is honesty
You can do it.
Sometimes the greatest act of self care is communication and expressing yourself.
You can buy yourself flowers and get your nails done or journal your face off....
But if something still feels weird...
Consider:
Are you abandoning/ dishonouring yourself by not sharing how you really feel?
I had to do this today, after feeling a gap in communication with my husband.
I ignored it - for 3 days - thinking I could pivot myself through journaling because maybe I was overreacting. And that helped. But it helped by taking the feeling from anxiety to the feeling of a constant scratch in the back of my head.
Ignoring those things are what make us explode or take it out on ourselves and other people (ice cream binge, anyone?!)
So, as I listened to an IG live from Jenna Phillips Ballard to try to shift -
I realized that as she was sharing about self care - I was doing myself and my fiancé a disservice by not being honest about my experience.
Isn’t that a great way to take care of myself?
And guess what? As soon as I expressed, the feeling subsided - and he responded with a reply that reminded me exactly why I’m marrying him.
Because I gave him the opportunity to show up. I stopped hoping in the back of my mind he would “just figure it out” or we would “get over it”
SO - if you’ve been self-caring as much as you can and something still feels off,
I’d ask you to consider where you’re not honouring yourself by not expressing because you are afraid of the other persons reaction.
No matter how silly it seems. Try sharing.
You can even start with something like,
“I know this sounds silly and isn’t quite rational, but I’ve been playing this assumption/story in my head that _____. Is that true? I love you and I want us to look at this together” etc
Whatever that is for you.